"You better think. . . "
Lauralynne from All That Junk In My Trunk has a wonderful idea for the new year. I tend to make resolutions which last approximately 1 week and then the real me takes over and the resolutions are gone or put on the back burner just to be forgotten. Instead of a list of all the things she plans to do (or not do) she simply came up with a one word theme for her year. You can read her post here. I thought is was a brilliant way to usher in the new year, without all the hoopla and failure associated with a big resolution list.
After thinking it over (OK truthfully I only gave it about 15 minutes of thought and those 15 minutes were filled with thinking about other things at the same time plus fielding two phone calls.) I decided my inspirational word for 2017 will be PONDER.
I am prone to making snap judgements and doing things impulsively. I would like 2017 to be a year of careful consideration. By that I don't mean to imply that I will be rigid and have no room for impulsive moments or spontaneity, but this year I want to actually think about the benefits and risks of everything before leaping.
A few examples:
Cousin X calls and is headed into town for a few days and needs a place to stay, but I have planned on repainting the guest room. The risk reward of that says hands down to put off painting and enjoy the company. But on the whole I do need to think carefully about my time and how and where to spend it, especially since it is finite. precious, and we can't manufacture more of it.
I see someone I know in public acting foolish. My normal inclination is to rush to judgement. This year I need to put judgement on the back burner, think things over and try to lean more to understanding the whys and hows of situations first.
Occasionally is fine, but I am rarely inclined to turn it down. This year I would like to make more purposeful decisions with food choices and this is where the pondering should come in. Celebrating with family of friends, fine indulge. Chocolate just because__not such a good choice. And do I really need/want fries with that burger. Ponder first then eat.
Think before blurting! Enough said there (Can you say filters?) I don't have to agree with everything everyone says nor it is my job to change their opinions. Plus does anyone out there really care if I think their skirt is too short or they have on the wrong color for their skin type.
It is lovely to think kind thoughts, but I need a bit of pondering to come up with a game plan to be more proactive with my follow through. I need to come up with a plan of 52 volunteering opportunities for the year.
They see the best and worst of me. Isn't it lovely that we will be careless with the ones we love the most. This year I need to ponder situations then act rather than react (This is going to be the hardest for me, especially as Mom gets more and more fragile and impossibly demanding)
Less is more needs to be my new mantra. We are at the beginning of a coming transition and will be substantially downsizing in the next few years. I need any purchases to be wise purchases and need to only buy home things that are necessary to add value when we sell this house in a few years. (new dishwasher, updated master bath)
I need to think carefully about each possession we have and get rid of anything that does not add value to our lives or create joy. I am not a minimalist by any means but we will be going from a large place to something much smaller and unless I want everything to follow me (I don't) I need to start systematically ridding myself of useless things.
We need to purposely up our entertaining game. We have friends and a great places both here and at the lake to share fellowship. Again I need to think carefully and start having more people over more often for very simple meals and great conversation. (Why do I think a dinner party needs linens, tablecloths and silver?)
So now I have pondered enough about this post and need to get on finishing up 2016 with a bang?