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Wednesday, May 6, 2020

Joys for the 18th Week of the Year

My weekly joys have been kind of bleak this past  week. I spent most of the week trying to get info about Mom, worrying about Mom or talking to my sister about Mom. When I look back at this weeks joys on New Years Eve I hope I will remember it with less irritation than I feel about it right now. I had a difficult time finding joy every day and had to do a deep dive a couple of days to find anything joyful. So one of my joys is that this week is over and I do not have to repeat it again!

Wednesday: Worried about Mom and feeling sad we could not be with her so I ate my worries in chocolate. Really bad news is that when I am sad, I bake.
Thursday: Happy to hear from the doc that Mom is doing OK, meaning she is not reacting negatively to the blood thinners. Son 2 came over to show me how to set up the smoker and I had a pleasant evening becoming a smoke master (Yep, I watched 2 tutorials so now I am a pro, right?)
Friday: Met my sister at Mom's house to take care of some business. Had a nice visit while we went over the finances. Neither of us brought coffee though. Bummer!
TheHub and I ate some of the pulled pork for dinner and it was fantastic! Why did I think smoking was that difficult?
Saturday: We did little other than sit on the porch and read. Then we headed out to pick up a pre ordered a tiller, and rode around a bit just to see the world. It was a wonderful day!
Sunday: We attended streaming church. I am getting used to worshiping in my pajamas while sipping on a cup of coffee. It's a bad habit, I think. Afterward we had a video Sunday school class and then we headed outside to work in the yard. We got a good bit done, but needed additional soil to finish a project. Whey does it always take more than you think it will?
Monday: Mom was still in the hospital and for the first time I got to speak to her. She was having a really bad day, and did not sound like herself at all. That made me sad but I was glad to finally get to speak with her.
Tuesday: I spent a frustrating day trying to get in contact with various doctors. I understand the new normal of no visitors or family in the hospitals is necessary, but it also means the medical professionals alter their normal too. Every time Mom has had a medical issue either my sister or I (often both) are with her. Normally at least one of us would be with her when the doctors make their rounds and we would spend a few minutes discussion her treatment/options. I know they feel too busy to call and discuss things with us, but I honestly do not think Mom can even sign her name now, much less make any decision about her care. Finally one did return my call and we set up a series of televisits for her after her discharge..
Our big Cinco de Mayo celebration was some take out tacos and tamales from a local Mexican restaurant followed by the last episode of Ozark.

And now I very happily move on to week 19. Mom is set to be released tomorrow and her sitters are ready to resume their sitting. I do have a couple of concerns about a particular medicine she has been prescribed and need to talk to them about it before she leaves, but I will be very glad to get her home where I can see her each day.

Hope you find your joy ,

There is a post script to this. Before I thought to publish this morning I got a call that they were releasing Mom early. I told the case worker I lived 15 minutes from the hospital and to call me when they were ready. Then I met my sister at Moms house to wait for the call to go pick her up. Instead the doctor called to tell us she had died.

34 comments:

  1. So very darned sorry to read your postscript. Prayers lifted for your family.

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  2. WHAT!!!! OMG how do you go from waiting to pick her up to that? I am so sorry, I can't imagine what could have gone wrong and the shock. My sympathy.

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  3. I'm so very sorry. Prayers for you and your family.

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  4. I am sorry. It's no fun to learn to navigate this next stage of our lives without our mothers. I will be thinking of you.

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  5. Anne,
    I immediately burst out crying when I read the last bit. I am soooo sorry you did not at least get to see her one more time. I know things will never be the same for you. My thoughts are with you.

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  6. Oh Anne, I don't know what to say......From going to be released to dying? I am so sorry and am praying for all of y'all.

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  7. Holy crap, Anne. I am sooooooooo sorry to read this. Oh my goodness. My heart breaks fro you. Hugs, Ivy.

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  8. Oh, Anne! No! What a shock this must be for you! And your sister, too! I am so very, very sorry. My deepest sympathies. (((HUGS))) I know you are surrounded by loving family, but, please, if there is anything we can do, let us know. May your mother's soul rest in peace. Take good care of yourself, too, during this stressful time.

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  9. Oh Anne. I am so very, very sorry for you and your family. Heartfelt hugs and oceans of caring are flowing your way.

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  10. I am so sorry, Anne, for you and your family. I know you loved your mother very much.

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  11. Anne... I am so sorry for your loss. This hits me close to home; you know my mom's situation. I know exactly how you and your sister feel. My condolences. May your mom rest in Peace. Sending good thoughts and good vibes your way.

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  12. So much love to you, Anne. What a shock that must have been and not the way you would have chosen her last days to be.
    So much about these times is difficult, not just the obvious disruption, and now you have the strangeness of a Covid era funeral. Be gentle with yourself
    Xx

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  13. Anne-- I don't know what to say. My heart is breaking for you and your sister. Hugs and prayers during this time.

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  14. I am so sorry for your and your family's loss. *hugs*

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  15. Anne! Oh my, how heartbreaking...I am so so so sorry for your loss. There is little we can say but we are here for you.

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  16. Oh my Anne, I am so very sorry! This is so heartbreaking to hear and I can only imagine the pain of losing her so suddenly and unexpectedly. Thinking of you and sending virtual hugs.

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  17. This is so hard for you and I am so happy she is going to be released. It is okay to eat your weight in chocolate my friend. That is what I would be doing.

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  18. Oh my word, what an awful shock. I'm so so sorry. My condolences to you and your family. Sending you big cyber hugs! Anna

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  19. Oh Anne! I am so sorry. I hope she has peace and you all truly can remember the times with joy. You and your sister gave her a wonderful end of life, staying in her own home, having the love and care of her children.

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  20. Anne, I am so sorry. I cannot imagine the grief of not getting to say goodbye. You will be in my prayers.

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  21. I’m so sorry Anne. Sending you lots of hugs. ❤️

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  22. I am just reading this, so sorry for your loss.

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  23. I can't believe I didn't read this sooner. So sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you and your mother. ❤️🙏

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  24. I'm so very very sorry for your loss.
    I am at a loss for words...

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    1. Her death was a not unexpected but the way it happened was.

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  25. This was so totally unexpected. I'm so, so sorry. There are no words right now.

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  26. Anne where am I, what planet am I on? I am so sorry, what an awful shock. What can I do for you?

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