This was not a normal week, though I am not sure what a normal week is anymore. TheHub is still working most days, but he works from home. (What is retirement?)
It is nice to have him around all the time (I think) but he has moved his workspace from either of the 2 dedicated offices we have in the house to the dining room table. It is seriously cutting into my normally loud music obsession, which is not cool, though I know it is definitely a first world problem.
Meals I thought we might have:
Crack chicken, rice, coleslaw
Steak, baked potato, tossed salad
Big salad dinner
Veggie dinner
Spaghetti w/ meat sauce, tossed salad
Pizza bowl, tossed salad
Out to eat or take out
Monday: The morning was spent doing a few light chores than it was time to go to my happy place. My Beloved Sister went with me and we made individual pizzas with the Independence Place participants. I cannot even begin to convey how much joy I get from being with them.
On the way home we always drive past the day old bread store. Thanks to Belinda's blog post a few days ago I knew to stop and check out the selection of Keto bread. I am not a huge fan of it, but for a sandwich or burger I will always use the much lower carb bread. Instead of paying 5+ bucks for 8 burger buns I got them for $2.00. That was a huge savings, and thank you!
Once home, I putzed around (translation: read) until it was time to get dinner ready
Monday dinner: I was late getting the meal started and this is why I keep browned ground chuck and marinara sauce in the freezer, and a Duke's mayonnaise jar filled with dehydrated mushrooms in the pantry.*
Spaghetti, tossed salad, dinner rolls
Tuesday: My Beloved Sister had to drive to Carrollton GA to physically identify herself at the nearest Bank of America brick and mortar bank. What a crock of whatever, for a credit card she has had since the 90's. Someone, somewhere had erroneously put a hold on her account and despite all common sense (like suggesting she go to her local bank, having her identity notarized and forwarded to BOA) the road trip was necessary.
Since she has no sense of direction, I went along for the ride. I have been to Carrollton only once before and assumed the bank would be downtown. I was incorrect as we were routed outside of town through the West Georgia University campus to get to the bank, for her to walk in with 2 forms of ID and the teller to verify she was who she is.
Any bets on how long it takes for her to cancel the card with them?
We got back home a bit after mid-day in time for me to run to ThePig and cherry pick their ground chuck sale. I only redeem ThePig's free item if there is something on sale I would normally buy that meets the $10 dollar minimum for redemption. I bought 10 pounds of the chuck and processed it in freezer bags for future use. And that is why my freezer is always filled to the brim.
Tuesday dinner: TheHub had been out to lunch and ate a big meal, and I had a few peaches left from a corporate gift we received. No cooking was done!
Big tossed salad, peach shortcake
Wednesday: I was secretly glad I did not have to go anywhere. I stayed at home and did dang well what I wanted to do, which turned out to be not much. There were tons of things that needed to be done (room of horrors for one) but I ignored them, sat on the screened porch with fans going to keep me somewhat cool while I read.
Wednesday dinner: We have been in an eating rut and it was time to try something new. Recently I bought several 1 pound packs of ground pork with no idea how I would be using them. Thank you Food Network.
Did I follow the recipe, not really** but it was a good place to begin.
Spicy pork bowl on bean thread noodles
Thursday: My Beloved Sister was having a seriously bad day. It is bad enough to be in the middle of the grief process but adding all the ever changing legal and business hoops one has to jump through can make things feel unbearable.
She had been so strong and stoic, but she had a little "come apart" day. She did not want me to go to her house, so instead, I stayed on the phone with her for a long time talking her and reassuring her she that she was not a failure and could do nothing but do whatever various entities demanded. It is all just paperwork, but it had gotten to the point where it felt endless, overwhelming, and left her feeling hopeless.
Hamburger patty, saffron rice, cucumber tomato onion salad
Friday: I had a low key morning, talked with Sluggy and ate TheHub's leftover lunch from a lunch meeting he had with bankers. I don't have any idea why Perry's serves such huge lunches, but we both ate from it and I had enough left over for at least one of us to have lunch another day.
TheHub and I ran a few errands then decided rather than come home and cook we would just pick up dinner.
Jack's 2 piece chicken dinner with green beans and coleslaw
Saturday: Chores!!! Not my most cherished thing to do. I don't know if I have mentioned it before but I abhor housework. Unfortunately it has to be done regularly and since I have neither upstairs nor downstairs maids living in the house, it pretty much falls to me. Ugh!
I had put off several things that just could not be put off another day, but I did get most of the tasks I wanted to do done. I did not get the dryer moved out from the wall so I could vacuum the vent hose, but I need help with that and will put that off for a long time.
There is still a ton to do and I need to get it done before Friday when my cousin is coming to spend the night before a family reunion.
Saturday dinner: I had some leftover shredded cheeses and sauce from Monday at IP and knew I would have them when I planned this week's menu. A few added vegetables and dinner was ready.
Pizza bowl
Sunday: We woke in time to make it to our church's early communion service, regular early church, and Sunday school.
On our way home we stopped at The Electric for a quick lunch, then came home to do a few chores, like rearrange the freezer. I don't mind doing it in the summertime, but will confess that I keep a pair of ski gloves on a hook attached to the freezer side so I can move things about without my hands getting too cold.
I also have learned to wear toed shoes when I do it. My freezer is an upright and on occasion while moving things something will fall out. A falling one pound bag of frozen ground chuck can do some damage to uncovered tootsies. Ask me how I know?
I moved from the laundry room freezer to the refrigerator in the kitchen. I needed to clean it out before our garbage collection on Tuesday, but I also needed to make room in the meat drawer for things I took from the freezer to slowly thaw for the coming week's meals. While I was moving and reorganizing I found 4 pounds of bacon that needed to be cooked.
I always cook it on a parchment covered jelly roll pan, the store it in a rectangular container I keep in the freezer. That amount of bacon will probably last us through September and part of October.
Sunday dinner: TheHub could not keep from smelling the bacon while it was cooking and thought it would be good for dinner. Fine with me!
BLT sandwiches
Planned maybe sorta for the next week:
Crack chicken***, green beans, rice
Conecuh sausage, kraut, skillet potatoes
Air fryer pork chops, mashed potatoes, brussels sprouts
Veggie meal
(We are going out Friday night, have a family reunion Saturday, and Sunday will be a surprise meal****)
Books read in August
Fly Away
The Noticer
Odd Thomas
The Noticer Returns
Rum, A History of the New World in Ten Cocktails*****
Have a great week staying on plan, going off plan, or with no plan at all.
May all your weeds be wildflowers.
Anne
*Reminder to self to dehydrate onions the next time I catch them on sale
** I wanted a one dish meal so I upped the vegetables and added chopped sweet peppers, carton of mushrooms , a chopped onion, and did not make the sesame paste or add the brown sugar. I had no chili garlic sauce and used Thai chili sauce instead. It was really good!
***I finally remembered to take the chicken out of the freezer in time to thaw to make this week.
****Fancy way of saying I have no clue and don't want to think any more
***** I learned more about rum and pirates than I ever wanted or needed to know, but the book was actually pretty entertaining
I'm so sorry your sister is going through the widows paperwork nightmare that apparently is a requirement now. Sister's are the best for being a sounding board. Your meals all sound great and I too can relate to my days never seemingly being what I started out planning.
ReplyDeleteMy sister is better this week even though things are still not resolved. I think she has finally decided it is not due to any failings on her part, but just the continual changing of all the documentations.
DeleteWhat I think sounds good Sunday night when I post my meal plan is not necessarily what sounds good when I start thinking about making dinner, so I ignore what I planned.
Oh Anne, Sissy still has bad days, and my heart goes out to your sister. The paperwork after the death of a spouse is just horrid!
ReplyDeleteIt is not just the paperwork but the absurd details that need to be addressed. How many death certificates does one company need to understand someone is deceased?
DeleteI'm sure everyone loved the individual pizzas. Who wouldn't?
ReplyDeleteThat is ridiculous that your sister had to show up in person to verify who she is. It seems like things are 10x as difficult as they used to be.
Having a come apart day is necessary some times and I'm sure she was thankful to have you there for her.
She had a major one, but is much better now. I finally told her "they" don't really care how timely she wants things done and "they" move at their own pace. Especially financial institutions who want to keep money in their companies as long as they can to earn that little bit of extra interest. Her major mistake was letting people know she would be transferring monies to her accounts.
DeleteIs The Pig you're referring too, Piggly Wiggly? I love the name of that store. I wonder who came up with name?
ReplyDeleteYes it is Piggly Wiggly but here everyone calls it ThePig (one word)
DeleteI know 3 people who have a very similar story that involves BOA. All 3 have canceled CC or closed accounts. Even if I am not a customer it makes me wonder what exactly is going on.
ReplyDeleteHer dealings with BOA have been horrific. She will be terminating everything she has with them by Sept 1.
DeleteI can so identify with your sister. Just getting up in the morning was hard let alone dealing with paper work that was never right! It is all widows my dear not just her.
ReplyDeleteOh don't I know. The upside is that it has made us review everything, including updating our wills and putting all passwords to every business account where either of us has access to them whenever needed.
DeleteSisters are the best. I have spent many hours over the years either listening or venting or crying about something. They understand some things like no one else.
ReplyDeleteI think it is because they love you even after seeing you at your best and worst.
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DeleteI'm sure your sister is glad she can count on you to be there for her.
ReplyDeleteYour meals, both planned and what you actually had, sound delicious. :)
We are very close in age and have always been there for each other.
DeleteThe meals for the week were tasty but I can veer off plan with the best veerers!
I'm certain your sister appreciates your being there for her. Dealing with an unexpected death and the estate is challenging and tiring too. I agree, there seems to be no reason she should need to drive that far simply to cancel a credit cart. Have a heart people!
ReplyDeleteThough we do a bit of meal planning, our meals never sound as good as yours!
When Dad passed away things were so well thought out that everything was seamless for Mom because they had planned for every possibility. It's why an estate atty. is worth the expense. BIL had just a couple of accounts he had not listed a beneficiary for, probably thinking he had plenty of time to do it.
DeleteWhat a rude wake-up call from BOA! Your sis' experience makes me wonder what steps Tom and I need to take with our joint-but-separate banking institutions.
ReplyDeleteIs Jack's chicken really good? We normally get ours from Publix, but now I'm curious.
Jack's chicken is good (at least the one near us is) and their biscuits that come with the meal are spectacular.
DeleteWoo Hoo, glad you saved some money on the Keto buns!
ReplyDeleteI secretly love it when I don’t have to go anywhere either. 😂
My heart goes out to your sister. Days like that can be so hard. 😢
I had been in that store a couple of times before but only bought sliced rye bread, and never thought to look any further. There are very few things the store has that I use regularly but I am going to start stopping by there more often.
DeleteThe paperwork required of the spouse when someone passes is horrendous isn't it. When my son's 23 year old son was killed in a car accident she tried to cancel his mobile phone and despite providing them with a death certificate it took them another six months to cancel it. Talk about twisting the knife in. While I understand much of it is necessary, there's gotta be easier ways to do things sometimes hasn't there!
ReplyDeleteI have heard tales of unending paperwork when a spouse dies. It seems so cruel. I use ground pork for taco soup or taco casserole. Practical Parsimony
ReplyDeleteThe amount of paperwork seems endless, but worse are the "case managers" who are supposed to help you who then tell you each time you have completed the next step that they either need something else or they are so sorry they told you the wrong thing.
DeleteI do not normally keep ground pork at all, but Sprouts had a fabulous sale and it was less expensive than ground chuck on sale.
Sounds like a busy week all around.
ReplyDeleteAmalia
xo
It had some full moments but was not a busy week
DeleteIt was a ghastly nightmare when a relative died and I had to deal with the retirement system for state employees. Cindy in the South
ReplyDeleteNothing is easy is it?
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